tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post4614704336151910850..comments2024-03-09T10:14:49.991+00:00Comments on BarrenAlbion: Life of the functionally insaneMsPrufrockhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06533722219016814501noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-26677866217811317772007-05-12T20:50:00.000+01:002007-05-12T20:50:00.000+01:00Duuuuuuuuuude. I had no idea you were feeling so ...Duuuuuuuuuude. I had no idea you were feeling so rough.<BR/><BR/>I like the mommy group idea, although personally they kinda' worry me, as I never know when I'm going to fit in.<BR/><BR/>Also, I'm a big fan of medicating. Biiiiig fan. I'm not saying that's your answer, but there's almost a hint of (please, please don't hit me) what some women describe as post-partum depression (seriously, don't hit me, I swear I love you and am only remarking on what other women have said). <BR/><BR/>If not, want me to send margarita mix? It's totally a Band-Aid to the issues, but at least you won't insist on it being called a plaster.Twisted Ovarieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00517046650604160650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-12668728900173450132007-05-10T16:25:00.000+01:002007-05-10T16:25:00.000+01:00Um, wow.That's a toughie. And a toughie for me to...Um, wow.<BR/><BR/>That's a toughie. And a toughie for me to comment on, becuase I would truly love to be in your shoes, seeing as how I had to beg and plead for the measly 5 weeks of maternity leave I was granted by my employer.<BR/><BR/>Can we switch places for a week? Hey-it would be like our own version of Freaky Friday! (but only if it's the old school Jody Foster/Barbara Harris one, not that stupid Lindsay Lohan/Jamie Lee Curtis one)<BR/><BR/>On a more serious note, I wish there was an answer. But I do think that nursery time and trip abroad will help a great deal, and then you will be back at work.<BR/><BR/>ps...speaking of the trip...am I allowed to come and visit? I would absolutely adore an in-person meeting with the lovely lady who kept me sane for the past 2 years.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-48019138020449636502007-05-09T05:41:00.000+01:002007-05-09T05:41:00.000+01:00I totally get where you're coming from. With my da...I totally get where you're coming from. With my daughter, I had a great groups of moms and babes, and they were my sanity. Got me out of the house several times a week for pram walks and a playgroup.<BR/><BR/>I HAD to return to work when my daughter was 13 mos., and *hated* it but had no choice. I soon discovered that WOHM is easier! SAHM is the hardest job I ever had... probably exacerbated by the part about no vacation or sick leave, and no adult interaction unless I went out of my way to find it. Overall the perqs are nice, but the monotony just about did me in.<BR/><BR/>Sending a boot to the head for your Dr. At least I'm glad you'll soon get some time to your self again. It can really, really help. Hoping you find a good mix of things to help defrag a bit.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-22063518771233831272007-05-08T16:24:00.000+01:002007-05-08T16:24:00.000+01:00I have to admit that I am insanely jealous of the ...I have to admit that I am insanely jealous of the leave that you are offered while at the same time completely understanding of your intense boredom. I just don't think that I could stay out of work for that long without breaking out in hives.<BR/><BR/>Having said that, maybe it is time to look for another job. One that provides you with more satisfaction. Working is certainly not always wonderful and fulfilling, but dare I suggest that neither is parenthood? (I don't know this firsthand but have learned from my sister). But a job that gives you more of what you need might help you to feel a bit happier in your life generally.....LIW (Lady In Waiting)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06199047053421154823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-80200951056087944412007-05-07T18:12:00.000+01:002007-05-07T18:12:00.000+01:00"I always assumed that infertility was the singula..."I always assumed that infertility was the singular barrier to my happiness"<BR/><BR/>Happiness, I've concluded, is a naturally temporal state. It's not made to last.<BR/><BR/>As for the boredom, I'm useless for advice. I was an only child for 15 years, I can entertain myself endlessly with things like lint and broken rubber bands. That and I have dogs and my repertoire of stupid dog tricks is infinite.<BR/><BR/>MMRaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11013736401581280682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-88999821029827990642007-05-06T22:17:00.000+01:002007-05-06T22:17:00.000+01:00Also totally jealous of the 14 months thing (not t...Also totally jealous of the 14 months thing (not to mention the totally adorable baby, but that's not the point).<BR/><BR/>How could you not go crazy without a bit of adult conversation? Are there any other moms who clearly less cooler than you but also discontented with the mom's groups or other offerings that are also going mad?milliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09710325487325258355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-13274596315620713542007-05-06T20:36:00.000+01:002007-05-06T20:36:00.000+01:00Well, as a veteran of a grand total of three days ...Well, as a veteran of a grand total of three days back at work...I can say that working in an office is a helluva lot easier than caring for a child day in and day out. (Of course, my baby is still at the age where she has only about 45 mins a day where she is not sleeping or eating or fussing, so that contributes to it...) As Thalia already pointed out--hello, Betty Friedan. But it's funny that while working all I can think about is what I might be missing at home when the reality is I'm missing very little...except those 45 golden minutes.electricladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13336802326230963572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-24476876477598222552007-05-06T17:12:00.000+01:002007-05-06T17:12:00.000+01:00"I always assumed that infertility was the singula..."I always assumed that infertility was the singular barrier to my happiness"<BR/><BR/>If you find this not to be true I could be in some trouble. I think exactly the same way. And it terrifies me that my life has been reduced to happy/unhappy over one issue, large as it may linger.<BR/><BR/>And. Styx? Wow. Though sometimes, "Mr Roboto" enters my brain and won't leave. For days.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-78523920488271712672007-05-06T12:23:00.000+01:002007-05-06T12:23:00.000+01:00I think you've just discovered why women fought fo...I think you've just discovered why women fought for the right to go back to work after maternity. It's really frigging boring staying at home with an infant. Nico is right, you need something different to do on 1-2 days. Someone to talk to who can talk back. Wish I could help.Thaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12125639207843989848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-51932322465516828922007-05-06T03:17:00.000+01:002007-05-06T03:17:00.000+01:00Sounds like you have a good plan, and I see some g...Sounds like you have a good plan, and I see some good suggestions here too. I wish your dr would get off his ass to help though.charlie's momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07908355762776457934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-91025390552790053962007-05-05T19:32:00.000+01:002007-05-05T19:32:00.000+01:00First of all, the freaking out? Been there, and r...First of all, the freaking out? Been there, and really sympathise. Have you had any further luck with the doctors about this? Because I am still not convinced that a self-help book is going to do the job...<BR/><BR/>As to the drudgery of SAHMness...I can't help from personal experience, but I do know that my sister absolutely loathed being at home full time. She got lonely and bored, and she loves her little girl to pieces. But...babies do not give particularly much mental stimulation. And...independence is a nice thing. My sister's solution, was to work three days a week and look after the baby for four. It means that when they are together they have quality time, and she's not so stressed out. <BR/><BR/>Obviously I'm not saying that this is what you should do; you should do whatever you want to! But its something that you can bear in mind, if you hate leaving P when you go back to work. <BR/><BR/>I hope you feel better soon. <BR/>:)Hayleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15351420545758615775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-52588187770570590832007-05-05T10:10:00.000+01:002007-05-05T10:10:00.000+01:00I think I'd be a bit bored too although not having...I think I'd be a bit bored too although not having to work sound wonderful now.Carohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210823139583056706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-57236059516440418752007-05-05T05:41:00.000+01:002007-05-05T05:41:00.000+01:00I hope you don't mind a few suggestions, feel free...I hope you don't mind a few suggestions, feel free to throw that cheese at me if you don't like them :-p I find my days at home much less mind-numbing if I get together with a friend with a similar aged babe. I seem to remember that you weren't overly enamoured with your mom's group, but I don't remember if there was anyone you did click with? I'm not doing this yet (I only have one "free" day at home), but a bunch of my friends are taking their babies to swim lessons - that might be a bit of a change. Also, there are apparently 'toddler time' classes at various gymnasiums, it might be worth looking around to see if you can find anything like that?Nicohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16777159761996555760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-15472676600162578992007-05-04T23:38:00.000+01:002007-05-04T23:38:00.000+01:00No one expects you to be on cloud number 9 all the...No one expects you to be on cloud number 9 all the time, right. <BR/>SAHM is a lonely occupation. <BR/><BR/>That said, I'm envious of your 14 months maternity leave.Lut C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03893061829410958985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-71093170571913531612007-05-04T21:43:00.000+01:002007-05-04T21:43:00.000+01:00Hiya I just found your blog. Your little one is a...Hiya I just found your blog. Your little one is adorable. I've also stuggled w/ being home but for me it's more the loss of my independence. I'm easing into my June Cleaver role well though, I suppose it's becaue I don't have a choice. Putting Squidge in daycare would eat up all my money so why go back to work? I'm taking some courses(French and maybe marketing) this summer so that my brain doesn't atrophy! I just try to keep busy. I schedule things for Squidge 3 day out of 5 so I'm home w/ her on Mondays and Wednesdays. It helps to break up the week. I hope going back to work helps and that P enjoys it!Lindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00811726513399647085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-35649475112279308442007-05-04T20:18:00.000+01:002007-05-04T20:18:00.000+01:00Oh, dearest.Do you need me to send cheese?And some...Oh, dearest.<BR/><BR/>Do you need me to send cheese?<BR/><BR/>And somehow, SOMEHOW, I am getting out to your mommy's house to see you in July. Come hell or high water. Or mean, nasty bosses and homework.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-23644130424293654282007-05-04T18:20:00.000+01:002007-05-04T18:20:00.000+01:00Um, can I be understanding and supremely jealous a...Um, can I be understanding and supremely jealous at the same time?<BR/><BR/>I am feeling your pain, my friend, on the wallpaper paste-like sameness of day upon day at this age. It gets better (but not by much), as they get older. This is not to say that I don't love (LOVE!) my child. I do. It's just that mommy needs a bit more mental stimulation than preparing mac n' cheese from the box and choosing which episode of Blue's Clues to pop on the teevee. And variety. Some variety would be nice. Why oh why do they need mind-numbing repetition at this age?<BR/><BR/>But I have to say - 14 months of maternity leave? Landsakes, woman, that's a beautiful thing.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290007044439581358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-81392079898290860182007-05-04T17:47:00.000+01:002007-05-04T17:47:00.000+01:00Um, yeah. LL is precious and sweet and damn near p...Um, yeah. LL is precious and sweet and damn near perfect but I pretty much loathe being a SAHM... which begs the question, why don't I get off my rapidly expanding ass and go back to work? Because I'd loathe that, too. And I'd miss LL. <BR/><BR/>There really is no solution. <BR/><BR/>But I must tell you that the daycare will make a difference. I feel a lot less insane in the membrane on the days when I have a babysitter for a few hours.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-12893533220220727282007-05-04T15:53:00.000+01:002007-05-04T15:53:00.000+01:00Yeah, it was at about this time that the lovely no...Yeah, it was at about this time that the lovely novelty started to wear off for me, too. There is, sadly, no real fulfillment in housework--it is so freaking relentless! And now that our kids aren't quite so needy and super-dependent, it's easy to feel a bit rutterless. <BR/><BR/>I think the nursery time will help, actually--it'll give you time to miss your little girl, and appreciate better the time you're spending together. Hope you get through these next few months okay!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9862855.post-63628276365895845562007-05-04T15:42:00.000+01:002007-05-04T15:42:00.000+01:00Fourteen months? Wow. I know this discontent. P...Fourteen months? Wow. <BR/><BR/>I know this discontent. Part of my problem with being a SAHM is that there's no end to my work day. One day bleeds into the next and becomes a blur of changing diapers, wiping up spills, giving baths, doing laundry and cooking meals. I think this is just as soul-sucking as a paying job, the only difference is that it's soul-sucking with a huge side of guilt because, hey, aren't we supposed to be all uplifted and warm and fuzzy about our children all. the. freakin'. time? And if we aren't, there's something wrong with us. <BR/><BR/>Gah. Sorry, got a bit carried away there. All I really wanted to say was "Yep, I'm there, too."Major Bedheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669161302510096751noreply@blogger.com